Non-Negotiables In Your Relationship With Yourself

I planned to write a post on Non-negotiables in friendships, these are things that are not open for debate. However, I can’t talk about relationships with others without beginning from within, which is the relationship you have with yourself because what you won’t do to yourself, others shouldn’t be allowed to do to you.

I think the best relationship we can ever have is with ourselves. There is no relationship you can have with anyone that is worth jeopardizing your own relationship with you.

My main goal for this year is “Focusing on me and getting to know myself”, why I act the way I do in certain situations, how I feel about certain things and why, my favorite kinds of food, the products that work for my skin, my favorite form of exercise, all of that. There is no end to that goal but I would say it has been the best decision I have ever made.

Knowing myself has helped me understand and value myself more, therefore I’m able to demand that value from others. There are non-negotiables that I have established in my relationship with myself that has improved my life and my relationship with others.

🌺 Having a day for yourself weekly

I’m the type of person that easily gets overwhelmed when I’m involved in several things simultaneously or when I’m around people for an extended period of time so I really treasure times with myself.

I try to have a day in the week to myself where the only work I do is working out. I do not hangout with anyone, I spend the whole day by myself. It’s easy to get wrapped up in our work or friendships or even just going about the tasks we have to do during the course of our week so it’s great to take a step back and channel all that energy to yourself

Spend quality time with yourself doing the things you enjoy, work out, prepare a nice meal, watch your favorite shows, go shopping, spend hours in the bathroom, get good sleep.

🌺 Show up for your goals and dreams

This should be a non-negotiable. Just like how you show up to work every morning by 8am cause your boss says so, you show up for early morning classes even though you really don’t want to get out of bed.

You should take yourself THAT seriously. Whenever you set goals, follow through with them no matter how uncomfortable they may be. Make showing up for yourself a habit.

🌺 No negative self talk

You’re not allowed to pull yourself down. That’s not up for debate. You’re not allowed to say negative things about yourself or attribute yourself to negative verbs.

I’m not saying don’t call yourself out when you do something bad. It’s necessary to be honest with yourself but never look in the mirror and pull yourself down and never speak negatively of yourself in the midst of other people. That’s devaluing yourself.

🌺 Be present

It’s easier to be happier and feel content if you forget about the past and not worry about the future, just focusing solely on the present.

The future you used to worry about is currently your present and you’re alive and well so why do you still worry about the future? The future will sort itself out, really.

🌺 Respecting your boundaries

Everyone should have boundaries that work for them and they must respect them. The biggest way you can respect yourself is by establishing boundaries in every relationship you’re in and letting people know that once they fail to respect your boundaries, they are disrespecting you and do not see your value.

These are some of the non-negotiables I have established within myself and has made me love and respect myself more.

As always, thanks so much for taking the time to read my post🤍. Don’t forget to share the link to your stories, your friends and your enemies. It would mean the world to me.

I’ll be posting on Non-negotiables within Friendships and Relationships so stay subscribed and tuned!

What are some non-negotiables you have established in your relationship with yourself and with friends?

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