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I recently stumbled on a post I wrote 3 years ago on steps to building your self confidence. Most of the points I gave were more focused on the mindset and on other people. I’m at a place now where most of the things I do are solely for me and on me.
Saying things like, “Surround yourself with positive people or don’t be around people that judge you” is good advice but also means that you’re putting part of the responsibility of your feelings on other people which isn’t exactly ideal. No one should be responsible for how you feel or react to stuff, that’s all you.
Today, I thought I’d share 3 ways to build your confidence that are all on you.
🍪 Fix Your Posture
Your posture definitely affects your confidence. I don’t know if you’ve noticed but when you sit slouchy, head bent downwards, shoulders down, it doesn’t appear confident. It feels like “mehhh whatever” but when you sit/stand/walk onto a room with the back straight, head high, shoulders up, there’s a sort of confidence it gives you. If you don’t believe me, try it.
🍪 Dress To Feel Good
Always dress to look good and feel good, it doesn’t matter where you’re going. It could be the market, to your friend’s house, the mall, literally even down the street. Putting effort in your look will always give you that confidence boost and you just be feeling yourself 😍
Also, don’t wait for people to tell you that you look good. Practice hyping yourself up! It’s scientifically proven that your brain can’t detect the difference between what is said by you or someone else. It just picks up whatever is said to it and immediately releases your “feel good hormones”. Everytime I look good, I always hype myself in the mirror like “gurl you look so good! damnnn who’s this pretty girl” and that just immediately elevates my mood and I feel good throughout the day.
🍪 Do More Of The Things You Find Uncomfortable
There are things that you find uncomfortable and there are things that make you feel uncomfortable. Things that make you feel uncomfortable like irked or irritated, steer clear from them please.
I’m talking the situations you refuse to put yourself in because you’re afraid to step out of your comfort zone. Go out and do activities alone, eat out alone without being on your phone throughout, strike conversations with strangers, just do things you’re too “shy” to do. It builds your confidence overtime then don’t things just become normal for you.
🍪 Fake It Till You Make It
Bringing that the iconic moment when an interviewer asked Rihanna, “What do you do on those days where you don’t feel that confident or fearless or powerful?” And she replied, “I pretend. Yeah, I fake it. I mean why not?”
We look at some people and think to ourselves, “Wow they’re so confident” and most of them are really just faking it. You can’t tell when confidence is fake or not, all you see is confidence. Most confident people began by faking it. You can only perfect what you constantly practice.
So don’t sit and expect confidence to just appear while you do nothing. It take consistent practice and may even take longer time for some than others. Some people are born with it, people like us have learn it.
Thank you so much for reading today’s post! I would love to read your thoughts on this in the comments so I’d appreciate if you leave a comment. Continue to have a great day or night! Love ya!🤍💐
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